“The problem of the burka is not a religious problem. This is an issue of a woman’s freedom and dignity. This is not a religious symbol. It is a sign of subservience; it is a sign of lowering. I want to say solemnly, the burka is not welcome in France,” Sarkozy told lawmakers.

The all greatness of France is now taking a toll for Sarkozy´s non tolerance ban against the burka.

It´s a sure fact that the French ruling party are causing quite a stir, a controversial debate about to ban or to not ban the burka. Sarkozy’s non tolerance attitude against this matter is not unknown and well, it has left none with the impression of some kind of either negative or postive impression.

Females that wear burkas are simply not welcome in France. The garment is too powerful, provoking and oozes of oppression. It does. They are not even entitled to a French citizenship and a fine could be taken in action if wearing a burka publicly when this law takes effect.

It stirs up many emotions when I see women all covered. I´ve seen it many times, but when I see them I always have mixed feelings towards it. It´s not about the pity, and concern. It´s more about the barriers and challenges these women must face by wearing a niqab. I have friends who wears the traditional hijab, jibab and other Islamic garments. Some of them wear burqas when they go abroad, to their native countries. But still, they withstand alot of cruelty and hatred, even with the hijab. To me, to cover your face and body in that fashion is a sign of oppression and guilt but I don´t see them as helpless creatures, definately not. I have never believed religion to really matter, but in this case, religion is everything because it bonds so tightly to these garments. How can a garment be so provocative like the burka. Why does it stir up so many emotions? Is it because we portray the burka as a prison and a way of categorizing the wearer. In some way we do. People react differently regarding the burkas but it´s still controversial and put in a negative folder.

I welcome a change for the females who are practising the Islamic traditions, but will the women themselves embrace it? The law can be enforced and set in motion, but still these garments are worn by the muslim women and should be considered their right to make their choice, how bad and negative that must sound to others.

I personally don´t like the idea of women being covered for religion or any other matters, none the less with a niqab but them who are making these decisions are making them for the wrong reasons, it could set off a massive breakout of terrorism, rage and many other negative forces through out France and Europe and by all means through out the whole world. Just look at the Danish cartoons that set off the whole muslim world in shock and rage. One single image, and Danish embassies all over the world were in target for a fueled major conflict and damage. Even though this garment can be a negative force in the way of democratic and integral social life it should be too considered a dangerous law to apply if not processed in the right way. A delicate matter that deserves the special attention and awareness of the muslim world and tolerance of other standards than their own.

Me being a believer in equality, may sound strange when I might contradict myself but in this case I do not believe so. This can be a beginning of something more alarming than a Danish cartoon, and the ban can be percieved in many ways. But mostly, it will just empower Muslim men and women to fight against the western world and encourage the militant to take action. And that can be a start of a new holy war.

A cross-party panel of 32 lawmakers will investigate whether the traditional Muslim garment poses a threat to the secular nature of the French constitution. They are due to report back with their recommendations in six months.

Political avantgarde in the highest point of fashion should not make any difference to the statement they are trying so hard to achieve. I don´t defend nor stand behind any religion for any cause, how rightful and just it might seem. Religion is opium for the people, MARX’s own words, and this opium is addictive, suppresant and seem to be very very very depressing. A politcal agenda is behind all of this and along with it some overboard politicians in parliament, and you´ve got a whole bunch of individuals that have opinions that just doesn´t concern them. They don´t know shit about the outside world. Basically, it is more about apperance and political influence, winning the votes and all that comes along with a presidential race. What are these men and women hoping to achieve with this ban? Mass demonstrations, more conflicts, and even firing the hostility towards an already targeted majority of the muslim world. The female muslim women that in western images are suppressed and categorized in a submissive faction.

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Picture this: Let´s say you have a daughter, young, happy and vibrant. Innocent. The centre of your world. Her laughs and smiles are a part of your everyday life. You can´t even imagine what life would be without her. You are your daughters protector. She is only 7 years old. She is cheerful, with no worries in the world, and is healthy and in a safe place. Happiness. Life for her surely must be is uncomplicated and easy.

Then picture this: A darklit, filthy damp room, where another 7 year old girl, terrified, scared, has just been taken to the local “doctor” to undergo a genital circumcision. The equipment is not sterile, dirty. She will probably end up with transmitted diseases as a result of the dirty equipment that has been used on many other girls and adult females and even later in life face difficulties due to this procedure. She is told and been raised to uphold her family´s honor and become a woman the family wants her to be. As long as the parents or in many cases the father alone gives his consent the girl have no say in this matter. To not become an outcast in her tribe nor family, she must obey.

The brutality in this lies not only in the procedure itself, it also lies in the ignorance and prejudice of adults. With the lack of information and health-risks it means to be circumcised, they do not understand the seriousness of these procedures. They consider it a way of tradition, culture and values and do not see further than that. That is the failing aspect of this whole issue.

Around 3 million girls and adult women are victims of FGM every year.
That is about 7000-8000 girls a day. Around 135 million women have so far undergone some kind of FGM around the world. In these matters there are probably a few more millions that are left out in the statistics and their records don´t show anywhere. They are silenced.

Where are all the government-funded aids and relief for these kinds of issues? How will human right activists and aid workers be able to inform governments, their citizens and treat victims if not funded? Precautional measures are an important tool in order to ban these procedures once and for all. To make people aware and understand the risks will also make parents think twice about what they are forcing their children to do. It is to break an ongoing cycle. How will that ever be possible without the knowledge and efforts of those who wants to contribute in preventing the continuation of this madness?

For various reasons cultures have been practicing female circumcision ever since the beginning of the 2nd century BC, the earliest documentation of this procedure was found on the coast of what we now call Egypt. The tribes where circumcising women for their Pharaonic beliefs. It was said that the female soul in a man was found in the prepuce of the penis, and the male soul in a woman was found in the clitoris. Therefore both men and women were circumcised to make a balance. What is truly bothering is that these traditions have been lingering on for almost 2500 years, and still practiced.

In Australia for instance around the 1900-1930´s Australian kindegartens practiced FGM as a method of curing “the masturbator” in children.
This was practiced by the Westerners and Aboriginals of Australia.
70-80 years ago.

Back in the 1800′s, FGM was indeed believed to be the cure of many “diseases” such as masturbation, reducing mental disorders in women,
female complaints, to stop and prevent nymphomania. ca. 200 years ago.

In some other cultures it is considered that circumcision is a rite of passage to adulthood, for both men and women. It becomes a day of happiness, festivities and a joyful occassion for family and friends. What I don´t understand is where the happiness lies in all of this. The risks of female circumcision and genital mutilation is nothing to cheer about:

The use of non sterile instruments, often not even surgical equipment such as razorblades, pieces of glass, knives leads to the transmission of diseases such as HIV & Hepatitis.

Infections
Infertility
Urinal incontinence
Pshychological and physical pains
Sexual difficulties
Maternal death
Abcesses
Painful menstruatons
Injuries to neighbouring organs
Cysts
Severe internal and external bleeding during and after the procedure

Complications during childlabour
(which often leads to episostomy)
Episiostomy is a surgical insition that is commonly used to assist during child labour. In Latin America, 90% of the women giving birth to a child undergoes a episiostomy without their given consent. (That is simply another issue that needs to be highlighted but in a later piece)

Want to know more about this? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Episiotomy

Just to name a few of the risks, this should make people aware of what it means to undergo such a dangerous procedure. Is the honor of a family or the importance of tradition more important than your own safety and welfare? We are talking about both young girls and adult women here.
The risks are more lethal for children since their immune system is weaker and their body is more sensitive against infections and receptive to bacterias in general.

There are four common types of FGM according to WHO (World Health Organisation). These types has been confirmed by the WHO as the standard procedures of a FGM. They range from “restrained” procedures to the more horrible removal of the whole outer genital parts.

Type I a/b mutilation:
Clitodectomy means basically that the clitoris (a) with/without (b) the prepuce is removed.

Type II mutilation:
Definition of this term is the removal of the clitoris with/partially removing the
inner labias too.

Type III mutilation (Infibulation with excision):
This is the worst mutilation type. Removal of the inner labias, and the outer labias sewn together covering the whole vagina except for a little estuary for menstruation and urine to exit. Usually, the outer labias are held together by thorns or stitching and in order to heal, the girls legs are tied tightly together for a secure healing of the vulva and to ensure a fast recovery often for weeks on end.

Type IIII mutilation:
Are considered other terms that are not always related to tissue removal of the genitalia but other female genital harmful procedures such as tearing, pricking and scarring, even piercing.

Many people picture genital mutilation, circumcision, cutting as a reoccuring act in Africa more specifically. But for ages and till this day, it has harboured alot of countries that is more unthinkable to us. To put this in perspective I will name a few countries that all have been linked to these kinds of procedures throughout history, some would be less surprising and some would be an eyeopener to others:

Somalia
France
Australia
Syria
UK
Iraq
Egypt
Nigeria
Canada
India
Saudi Arabia
Malaysia
USA
Ethiopia

Some nations in the world have banned the practice of FGM to name a few:

France
USA
Sweden
United Kingdom

Plus the 26 African nations that ratified the UN Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW). But still, this is an active, ongoing procedure, 28 countries on the African continent is proof of that. CEDAW will not prevent FGM from happening. CEDAW is just a piece of paper, some treaty that is not usable. The ban will not take serious effect unless the governments themselves make an effort to inform and educate. Not related to any specific religion nor nationality, FGM is a concern that should have a high priority like all other matters in the world.
A signature is not proof of a change for the better. Promises and ignorance either. The change will come when the country itself is developing to become a less prejudice and more accepting to what is best for their people. To mutilate women and girls are not in a countries best interests. It is targetting women in a genderized fashion and forcing upon them ideals that are ancient. We are talking about human lives that can be saved, little girls, young women. Statitics are just numbers. But for their families they are not. And that is a crucial difference.

Even though FGM are associated with the negative press and health risks that comes along with it, many women choose to undergo FGM procedures for other reasons than stated above. It is considered as a positive trend among these groups and a statement against society. They believe it is a proof of their chastity and cleanliness and virginity. And those among them not circumcised are looked upon as dirty, filthy and childish. Impure. It pressures a vast majority of young women to make choices that are not always the best for their lives, risk their safety and future familyplanning.

FGM is not an issue that will resolve itself in a day or two, it has taken a long time to make the development that has taken effect today. These procedures are a serious violation against the Human Rights act we all are entitled to. It is our obligation to inform, warn, and raise awareness to make this stop once and for all. The most important issue is to make the authorities take responsibility for this kind of ignorance against the countries involved.

A serious change for action is needed in the progress towards a better future for these girls and women and the more people that gets involved the better the outcome will be. I write letters to governments making a stand for non tolerance against this matter. It might be considered as a simple piece of paper, but at least, you have taken advantage of your rights as a concerned world citizen. My letters is one of the many governments receive daily and at some point, I truly believe that all those letters combined will someday make a difference. I´ll write them everyday if I have to.

Take action and make a stand:

AMNESTY

Now why would I say something like that?

The Somalian girl was stoned for having an affair with an unmarried man. And she gave birth to a stillborn child. How is this justifiable? Who gave people the right of taking the lives of others?

Want to read the article?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/8366197.stm

Noone is an exception. They are all casualties, none more worth. All casualties that has been the outcome of wrongdoing should be just as important.
Every human being should be aware of that no matter race, age, heritage.

You get it now don´t you?

Noone worth more than another.

What makes a story news to the world?

What makes it worthy of our reading?

What kind of stories are left behind in the archives and not being told?

2009. Stoning in Somalia. Not the first, nor the last victim. And certainly not only in Somalia is this taking place. All over the world acts against human rights are executed everyday. What makes this story a headline? Should not we, the World with the means and diplomatic knowledge be out there to stop this madness?

It should raise their awareness that the World is watching and take action against this kind of ignorance?

I believe that all kinds of injustice and oppression is worth a headline in every damn newsroom. But if it would. We would get a really thick newspaper in the mailbox daily that would take a whole eternity to read, least to say. Too much to handle, too much too read. Just too much information.

“Just give me the most important ones please, I have a day full of shopping to tend to” thinks the superficial woman, not at all interested about the seriousness of matters that don´t include the last gossip. She looks herself in the mirror, looking for things to do a touch up on, and adjusts her newly made breasts, the new thing around the block was getting cheeks done. Give me the creditcard so I can spend it on my vanity before my body withers away, she thinks and puts another smack of lipgloss before she takes her Aston Martin for a spin.

“I am working and making huge profits from warzones. I only need to read the financial pages” thinks the bankmanager who invested in far away oil and natural resources; he just don´t have that much time to spare since he needs to find out how the stockmarket affects his so hardearned money. He looks at his kids, clean, wellfed and happy. Healthy. No worries in the world. Safety is such a lie. But deep inside he still worries. “Not too much casualties. Not good for business”.

“I don´t want to read about the injustices. I feel bad and makes me somewhat guilty of not taking action”.

Yes. This must be the most recurring thought through out the world. This is how the ordinary, everyday life person must feel I think. Too much to do, don´t have time, not interested, maybe I will get into trouble, oh no thank you. What difference can I do? And they walk away faster than a girl all worked up for a sale down at the shoppingmall or something. They vanish and forget about it as they are drinking their 5 dollar coffee and talking about the dreams of their lives. People are aware of their power to make everything settle for the better. I believe in the power of the people. A majority prefers to close their eyes, get all deaf and just pretending that nothing outside their comfortable worlds exist.
I do believe in the good, and the bad. It happens everyday even if we like it or not but the difference is to make it count for the better. Should we accept it?

I am taking action because it is a necessity for my sanity.

I use words and my freedom of speech that people in various parts of the world are ready to die for in a heartbeat.

Horrible?

Think how horrible it must be to be a woman, set in a hole to your waist and having an audience watching you die by getting stoned and seing your loved one getting whipped. Just for loving eachother. Adultery. Happens all the time, every second, minute. All over the world.

What the hell is the difference. She is just another casualty.

Horrible, no, it´s far worse than horrible. It is unforgivable to the beyond, not acceptable to say the least. I won´t ever find a reasonable word for this kind of doing. This injustice leaves a foul taste in my mouth. The unmarried man connected to the woman got hundred lashes. The 20 year old woman was stoned to death. I can describe it as a simple reprimand compared to her sentence. It doesn´t matter.
It is wrong to be punished in name of beliefs and religious matters. REMEMBER.

This is just my opinion.

The 7th century laws of Sharia is not justice. It is oppression. It is an excuse of lashing out aggression to an already targeted mass of the African population.
Followers can justify and defend Sharia as an Islamic way of daily life, morals, standards, values. I don´t care.

We are living in 2009. It is NOT ok to amputate people their feet nor hands for stealing, I can´t see no progress in this situation. They maybe are hungry, or providing for their family the only way they can. Poverty is desperation. It is NOT acceptable and justifiable to be stoned for adultery. You get a divorce through a lawyer and move on with your life even though an emotional turmoil is raging in your head.

This is what I think. How can something so old as the Sharia, be practiced and accepted to this day? What kind of similarities are there between the centuries? Do tell me, I am eager for an answer?

Life for a life? Killing is not a reason. It is a excuse.

Excuse of what now you might ask?

An excuse of killing people just for the sake of it.

A war is far to costly to end than to maintain. Oppression is a currency in all of it.
And with that currency fear is created to keep ignorance going.

Bring down the people. Strip them of their dignity, and even their loved ones. The law, Sharia must be obeyed to whatever cost. That is their grip of power. FEAR. Setting fear in people makes them submissive. But somewhere it makes other factors count too. A boiling frustration. A change. The power of the people will grow as a seed here. If they don´t, nothing will ever change. And when it changes,
they should make sure of not making the same mistake as history proven them wrong. 18 years of a society without a just and true government should be enough?

Somalia and other nations in the World should just wake up and smell the coffee. There are things to be done. A future without chopping hands, feet and stoning.

One note about stoning:
Being the feminist I am I needed to bring this up, my clever self did some extensive research about stoning and the rituals around it. Found out that men are dug to their waist in the hole. But women to their breasts. Just a remembrance though, these regulations are different in accordance of what beliefs you are looking into. Anyways. If the accused can manage to escape they win their freedom back. But. Since women are buried to their chest with dirt, how the hell could they ever stand a chance? And one more thing. Stoning has a ritual. No stone should be too big to kill the victim with just a few strikes, neither to small to give them the timeframe foran escape. They should be regular sized. Regular? Stoning? What the hell are they talking about? I can´t find words, I lost them all as I read the article of the matter.

Want to read more about stoning?

http://stop-stoning.org

It is all about control.

Ignorance is being a safety switch against the unknown alien trends.

Ignorance does not progress.

Ignorance is to stone and circumsize and dress women in burkas because it is set to be an example. Burkas should be burned, all of them. Burkas are oppression, it is a tool for their works.

It is to say, “I am putting this on because I believe in what this tradition and way of life stands for”. A jail, a chain, an identification of gender.

A cage that is a demeaning your every being. Burkas are a damnation towards females because it puts your own self in a mental and physical quarantine.

You can believe in the holy ghost too for what I care, burkas won´t change anything. Whenever I see a burka I get annoyed. Rip away that burka. And slap the man that is in control of the woman.
I am not scared. I have been in arguments and fights with people of different beliefs before. But what do they know now? All they know is their way of life, just for the sake of it they can´t broaden their vision? No progress in sexist land where burkas have a grip of the whole female population with the fear factor. Liberation on the agenda should be more fitting in burkaland. That face don´t need to be covered. You won´t go to hell for showing of your face. Mashallah. I promise. When the ones dressing themselves in burkas freely they admit to the fact that they are oppressed and that they accept all kinds of oppression. Or you can put it on for the simple reason: you are oppressed because the fear and scare has a grip of you, all for the sake of marital peace and your security in life. There IS a difference.

I´ve seen it happen, not at a distance, upclose. And it was traumatic.

Liberation is what sets pre-history to history. Just a slight difference, but with a major impact.

Killed for the sake of freedom, or freedom to get killed for life?

I do not believe in anything more than justice and equality of any kind.

“I am a feminist”

Feminism.

The female gender.

Gosh.

Should I blush for stating the fact of my beliefs. Should I shut my eyes to the society´s injustices against women because I can?

I won´t.

Because it all need to be said, seen and heard many many times.
The good, the bad, and the ugly, yes?

In 1949, Simone de Beauvoir finished and published her book, The Second Sex (Le Deuxième sexe).
Did she know what a controversial, mindblowing impact it would have for the ordinary world? I don´t know.Maybe she indeed wrote this book with a grin on her face knowing it would change women´s lives forever.

I know for a fact that in those times, not even Ms. Beauvoir could or would dare of calling herself a feminist.
It was nothing to be said out loud. What a tabu. A statement like that was not for the masses to hear.
Imagine a book, dedicated to us, “the second sex” with a little too much information that people just can´t get a grip of.

The people I am speaking of is the male population. And the small group of unliberated frigid women with just no freedom of mind.

This book changed my life! It is so cliché and so old but it is the truth. Ms.B has written so good, honest, and sincere about us, FEMALES that roam this Earth. She tells us about our biology, our pschye, myths & mystifications, situations, about EVERYTHING that concerns a woman.

It saved my life from turning upside down. I am not joking.

The second sex is not something written in a haste, Miss B wrote this book for three years. And she got most of it right. But in 1949 postwar/at war whatever, people had other things in mind. Genderroles were all cracked up due to the females in work producing for the industries, men stationed at warzones made the genderline all blurry.

For time being.

Indeed controversial, shocking, sexual, and psychoanalytic, mindblowing, she made a silent fightback to the grown up boys in their stale starched suits talking about women as not “functional” without men or women are “defect” men. Or even better. Women just can´t THINK for themselves now could they?

 Doesn´t that make YOUR shirt itch?

It all comes down to the fact that for all years, through all the ages of history, every single breathing moment we have been the gender that has been comprimised. We as the female species have been demeaning ourselves, submitted ourselves to just be what we are.

The second sex.

Even Ms.Beauvoir had it coming.
As a fellow companion of Jean Paul Sartre, well, she was his shadow, was called “Sartre´s Notre Dame”.

We have been bystanders for centuries watching men rule & conquer the world, sign treatys, educate themselves, have the freedom of speech and what else?  And what are we? Shadows. Just a few pages here and there in schoolbooks that is meant to educate and give knowledge to children of the world, BOYS & GIRLS.

How many times have you read about Marie Curie, Susan B Anthony, Joan of Arc, Emily Dickinson,
Simone de Beauvoir, Indira Gandhi, Queen Elizabeth, Queen Victoria.. just to list a few. Tell me?  Who the hell wrote those history books.

When “The Second Sex” got published, It stopped the compromise a bit just by showing itself off.

The female intellect at it´s best. 1949.

Suddenly, just like that we were in the game too. Just like that.
Females fought for their liberation, their right to vote, their right to their own body. Men just have never needed protection from the other sex.

Women have, from men.

Battering.
Rape.
Assault.
Physical, mental abuse.
Kidnapping.
Molestation.
Women as weapons of war.
Gendercide.
Discrimination.
Stoned to death
Female cirucmcision
Genderroles
Victimization
Just a thought.
Why is this happening to us?

Men are a certainty, women are not? Why is that so?

Are men a certainty because they are equipped with another kind of brain? NO, but maybe they wished for something like that. Men are a certainty because they simply are. We let them be the certainty of the World. We are told that we are emotional creatures. Emotions and instincts are our strength. We can play at it if we want to. And we do! It is all about stereotypes, the female and the male, the thinker, the logical, the rational, the emotional.

Why are men not called emotional when they simple are?

They act out on the strangest things ever, if you take time to observe them.

Observe.

Women shouldn´t be, couldn´t be, and will never be a lots of things that the world has to offer.

Well, go to hell.

A statement that surely put our fights for liberation in another perspective now. If women haven´t taken action for centuries ago the female species would be the pretty babypoppers and high quality housewives till this day sexists would like us to be. Nothing else. Our worthy. Our cause.  Babypoppers? Baby poopers? What ever.

I belong to me. And me only. I could consider an engagement.

Femmes know we can do it all. We do it silently. It doesn´t need to be loud, boastful, whatever. The message needs to be effective, and that is what matters. Loudness is not pretty. Excellence is. And I don´t need to march the streets, go on rallys, scream and be all macho stating my rights as a woman tofeel equal with the male society. Why should I act like a man?

No way. I am not even gonna go there!

It´s not about that.

Intelligence goes way further than burning a bra.

I need my bra.

It keeps away my backpains from having mommyboobs for almost two years.

“Innumerable scenarios are possible in a relationship between a man and a woman; in comradery, pleasure, confidence, tenderness, consensus and love to make it the most valuable source of happiness, power and riches that is ever possible for any human being.”

I am a human being of the female gender.

Yes, I am. BUT:

I still have needs like other femmes. I need to feel protected, loved, nurtured with everything good
that life has to offer. I need respect and compassion. And sometimes it feels good when someone takes initiative and lead the way.

Why? It is the animal in me speaking of what I need. It´s the biological part of it.

The lioness don´t leave her cubs unattended. She protects them.
She hunts food for her loved ones. She only lets Mr Lion shag her if he won the big fight. Women like that. I do. I want protection.  This lioness needs a mighty lion to measure up with my standards. Because if not as brave as me, HE will become the second sex. And submissiveness is a turnoff! I need a lion to pick me up when i fall into dark scary abyss. I will need his strength to get back on track, people no matter what can´t make it on their own. Mr. Lion in return will win my respect and loyalty for letting me be the individual I need to be.

Love in a mammalistic point of view.

Give & take.

Give & take.

A rock to hold on to. A safe haven from the evil world. My own image at the other side of the mirror.  My equal.

I need a man someday. But a man with equal standards.

The mammal in me speaking yes? I am laughing out loud.

I don´t believe this is a contradiction against my beliefs, just an ideal I share with millions of women.

 And I am quite certain of that.

A man can let a woman have a strong mind and let´s her have things going HER way, cause she is right at a matter. Not for the sake of it all cause she is a woman, special treatment like that is wack and twisted.

An equal.

Egalité.

As I am flipping through my old notes, furious writings, unhappy poems and strange quotes I found a Moleskine notebook in my “black box”. Containing something that looked like a very angry girl and her thoughts. And amongst them all, quotes from both Ms. Dickinson and Ms. Beauvoir was in the context of everything.
My dear Emily Dickinson, friend and foe. You always make my eyes watery. Checking the dates on the pages it was during a time where I had a lost identity, a fixed vision of me as a young woman and just a fury against men, because I thought I needed men´s attention to feel like a woman. So wrong!

This was during my first reading with “The Second Sex”, and I was thinking alot. Kept my self in silence with paience and fortitude. I red my way through the book in about a month. I red my way through my eating disorder, I got rid of my fury.

I understood myself, finally, it was like an epiphany.

I want to be strong, so I can mend. I need to accept me, to mend.
The anger stopped there. But Ms.B has yet been following me through all steps of life ever since. She was there during my pregnancy, bad and traumatizing dates, through days when life was just gray and boring, case of malfunctions in my head (I am referring to infatuation), during labor (chanting her quotes inside my head between contractions), during the first months of another lost identity-case due to mommyhood at an early stage.
And now a metalmommy as a softer description of myself. There are so many words describing what people think of me. But I am just being Theresa in my own way.

Ms.B shed some important matters 1949, those are one of the foundations of modern Feminism today. It made a controversial, sexual, honest shoutout towards female victory against the world known to man. Every woman is important, as every man too. But they should share this world in a justified equal manner. Not be the first nor second sex. Females are not shadows, they are creatures with qualities men don´t have. And men will never inherit them as their own. Ever.

Women can not live without men, and men cannot live without women. Such a paradox, but yet so true. Are we not trying to make an utopia  into a realization?

Maybe we will never co-exist in an equal world? We can at least strive for that goal.

 One last quote that is so true, and hits the spot:

“Noone could be more arrogant, aggressive and contemptuous against women than a man insecure of his masculinity”

So whatever you do. Let men have their ways, they need it for their ego.

Girls can rise above anything and everything!

Until time being… /Tessa